The first step in surviving an affair websites is getting the details out in the open. It is important to avoid secrecy as much as possible, but this also includes avoiding conversations with friends or family members who are likely to fuel the hurt and anger you are experiencing. It is helpful to find a therapist who can support you as you work through your emotions.

It is also important to make sure you are not putting the affair on a pedestal. The hurting behaviors are severe violations of trust and they cannot be excused. It is unhelpful to refer to these misbehaviors as ‘harmless dalliances’ or ‘friendships’, it is essential to identify them for what they are – betrayal, infidelity, cheating, lying and sex addiction.

Moving Forward Together: Rebuilding a Relationship After an Affair

Often there are underlying issues driving the affair, such as unmet needs, poor communication, or antiquated gender roles. It is important to address these as you rebuild your marriage. Showing sincere remorse and vowing never to have another affair will help you regain your spouse’s trust.

The offended spouse will have many questions and it is essential to listen with compassion while being firm. It is a journey and it can take 18 months to two years for some couples, but you must move forward together. It is important to remember that there is only one you and your mate deserve the best of you. It is important to make it clear that if the affair has ended, there will be no contact with the former lover.…